“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
Try this: Sit in a room by yourself. Truly, and completely by yourself. No t.v., no phone, no books, no music, no people. Free of all noises and the words of other people. How does it make you feel? Bored? Nervous? Anxious? Lonely? If it’s anything but positive, you have some inner work to do.
The first time I ever did this, for about an hour, I had to force myself to stay there. I felt a weight on my chest, I couldn’t breathe, and I felt like the walls were closing in on me. I recognized the feeling: complete and total anxiety. I felt like the only person left in the world. I felt completely alone. I was Tom Hanks in Castaway, and looked around the room for an object I could draw a face on.
I live in Netherlands now, and have noticed the numerous differences between Europe and the United States. One of these is the fact that in many saunas/spas, you are required to go in your birthday suit. In the U.S. we have no problem putting half-naked people on huge billboards and all over magazines. But, tell […]
You shouldn’t wear that. You should smile more. Why are you doing it that way? Do it this way. You’re not working hard enough. You’re working too hard. You’re fat, lose some weight. You’re too skinny. You’re not attractive. You’re only getting ahead because of your looks. You’ can’t do that. You’re not that nice […]
No, saying you shouldn’t worry about procrastination or laziness is not to tell you it’s perfectly fine and to let you off the hook. What I’m saying is procrastination itself is not the problem. Fear and the constant cycle of “what if…” is the problem. Fear leads to stagnation. Fear leads to inaction. Fear leads […]
Fall: A Fresh Start Fall. Just saying that word conjures up memories of reading Harry Potter, stepping on every crunchy leaf, carving pumpkins, the smell of cheap Halloween costumes, candy, hot chocolate, and apple picking. It’s considered one of the most beautiful times of year and is a favorite of most people, especially your average […]
Focusing on the Past The Past Can Motivate You Buddha always said to live in the present. If you Google “focusing on the past,” the top articles are “8 Ways to Stop the Past from Ruining the Present” and “How to Get Over the Past and Focus on the Future.” It’s all about the future, thinking ahead, […]