“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
Try this: Sit in a room by yourself. Truly, and completely by yourself. No t.v., no phone, no books, no music, no people. Free of all noises and the words of other people. How does it make you feel? Bored? Nervous? Anxious? Lonely? If it’s anything but positive, you have some inner work to do.
The first time I ever did this, for about an hour, I had to force myself to stay there. I felt a weight on my chest, I couldn’t breathe, and I felt like the walls were closing in on me. I recognized the feeling: complete and total anxiety. I felt like the only person left in the world. I felt completely alone. I was Tom Hanks in Castaway, and looked around the room for an object I could draw a face on.
I live in Netherlands now, and have noticed the numerous differences between Europe and the United States. One of these is the fact that in many saunas/spas, you are required to go in your birthday suit. In the U.S. we have no problem putting half-naked people on huge billboards and all over magazines. But, tell […]
You shouldn’t wear that. You should smile more. Why are you doing it that way? Do it this way. You’re not working hard enough. You’re working too hard. You’re fat, lose some weight. You’re too skinny. You’re not attractive. You’re only getting ahead because of your looks. You’ can’t do that. You’re not that nice […]
No, saying you shouldn’t worry about procrastination or laziness is not to tell you it’s perfectly fine and to let you off the hook. What I’m saying is procrastination itself is not the problem. Fear and the constant cycle of “what if…” is the problem. Fear leads to stagnation. Fear leads to inaction. Fear leads […]
A Lovely, Warm Home Going to Italy is like visiting a very dear friend you haven’t seen in a while, but every time you see them it’s like no time has passed at all. This friend of yours has a lovely, warm home with lots of wine, and pizza. They love to stay up late […]
Ferry from Gourock to Dunoon Just getting to the small village of Kames, Argyll and Bute, Scotland felt like an authentic experience in itself. After landing at Glasgow airport and taking a local bus to the central station, I hopped on a train heading for the Gourock ferry terminal. After shuffling on to the ferry […]
An Impending European Apocalypse My boyfriend and I spent the two weeks before our trip completely worried about the weather, and obsessively checking the forecast. We had originally planned to go back to the Harz Mountains in Germany; it was one of our favorite previous trips. But as our vacation came closer the forecast went […]
Expensive Ducks in Geneva As we drove through the tunnels, I serenaded my boyfriend with one of those really sad Adele songs; he loved it, I swear. We were on our way to Geneva after having stayed the night in Mulhouse, France. Do I sound like a travel snob? I was really looking forward to […]
Pinterest Wedding Pinterest is the greatest thing ever created; especially for your average shabby chic loving woman. I can pin a picture that teaches me about SEO, and then in the same 5 minutes I can learn how to make chicken fajitas and pick an outfit for date night. And, in answer to every man […]
I recently celebrated my one year anniversary of living in Netherlands and I have gotten to know the country and it’s people quite well (some people very well, hint hint.) I have come to love it here, even on the rainiest days of the year! (Did the rain part sound believable?)