Who Are You Alone?

“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden

Try this: Sit in a room by yourself. Truly, and completely by yourself. No t.v., no phone, no books, no music, no people. Free of all noises and the words of other people. How does it make you feel? Bored? Nervous? Anxious? Lonely? If it’s anything but positive, you have some inner work to do.

The first time I ever did this, for about an hour, I had to force myself to stay there. I felt a weight on my chest, I couldn’t breathe, and I felt like the walls were closing in on me. I recognized the feeling: complete and total anxiety. I felt like the only person left in the world. I felt completely alone. I was Tom Hanks in Castaway, and looked around the room for an object I could draw a face on.

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Determine Your Own Story

You shouldn’t wear that. You should smile more. Why are you doing it that way? Do it this way. You’re not working hard enough. You’re working too hard. You’re fat, lose some weight. You’re too skinny. You’re not attractive. You’re only getting ahead because of your looks. You’ can’t do that. You’re not that nice […]

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Yourtango: 10 Small But Powerful Ways To Stay Independent In A Relationship (And Build A Stronger, Deeper Love)

Click here to view this article: Yourtango Being in a relationship doesn’t have to mean letting go of who you are. The beginning stages of a relationship are like walking into a cave full of glitter, roses, and lots of sex. But eventually, once we understand how to have a healthy relationship, we must emerge from that cave […]

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